Thursday, April 14, 2011

There are so many challenges in life. It seems divine design is responsible for the paths our lives take. As I think about how different my journey is from all those around me, how each person has their own struggles and triumphs to experience, it all makes my struggles seem so insignificant and my triumphs so uninspiring. Yet I know better than to sell myself short. I know that my life as been divinely designed and that the challenges and successes I encounter on my journey are meant for me; to shape me, to improve me, to teach me. I hate that I feel the need to preface all my blog posts with this. What I am basically saying, is I know someone's got it way worse than me tonite and in everyday life, but I need to get over it, this is my blog, my forum, and I guess if I want to complain everyday, I can. You don't have to read it! I actually haven't posted anything for a long time just because of this. Just feeling like no one would want to hear what I had to say. That may very well be true, but I can still write it. It makes me feel better, it helps me to see it after I've written it all down, and again, it's my blog. Funny, I bet this has something to do with my need for approval. It's amazing how once I figured out I'm like this, I see how it has manifested in every aspect of my life! It's like I had a handicap or shortcoming and just learned to adjust or adapt, and not to my advantage. So here is what I'm dealing with tonite, take it or leave it.

It's funny to me, how my journey can change from hour to hour, my husband calls it "bi-polar", I call it emotional multi-tasking (as any sassy mother would). Tonite I feel a bit down, it's getting late, the later it gets the worse things seem. I should just go to bed! I'm feeling hijacked, like I'm really not living the life I want to live. Would Oprah call it my "authentic" life, or self? Whatever I'm so over Oprah! Regardless of what she might have to say, I am tired of putting up the good fight. I have learned in life that taking the easy way reaps little reward, however, why do I have to make a stand against others to achieve my own happiness. You would think the people that love you would just want you to be happy. I know that I have no one to answer too, it would just be so much easier if the people in my life saw the world through the same cheerful lenses I do.
I recently realized I am concerned with approval; I am an approval seeker. Yuck! There I said it! I don't think there's a 12 step program for that, but if I ever find one at least I've got step one out of the way. This is something that I love having a label for. It really helps me better control and understand my reactions to the world. But it takes time for me to figure it all out, which is often the case. I have to stop and decide what I want, if it's reasonable and how it is best to go about attaining that in a diplomatic way. It's exhausting! I just want what I want, when I want it! Tonite there are a laundry list of wants that need tweaking. Really I think it may just be 3, but they feel like a wagon full of rocks, weighing me down as I try to continue to move forward. I think the worst part, the part that gets me down and perpetuates my multi-tasking of emotions, is the constant feelings of inadequacy. Which I'm sure has something to do with that need for approval. I'm most likely going to have to deal with my laundry list in the next few days, because once I get this bug, this bug that something isn't right in my world, I have a hard time holding it in. I want to sleep on it now, but I know when I'm feeling like this, for some reason the night only makes it worse. The night brings in a dark storm of self criticisms that weigh down on my chest like a ton of bricks, yuck! Well, sweet dreams then. Or I could rise above. Realize the truth, the people who love me really do want me to be happy and I am good enough, because God made me this way and there is no one holding me back from getting what I want. Phew! Glad I got there before bed.

Tuesday, January 18, 2011

Book Club of 1

I wouldn't consider myself a rabid reader. I did finish the Twilight series in 2 weeks, and re-read Harry Potter each time a new movie is about to come out, but I'm not a literary book worm. So since most of my recommendations for reading material come from the movie theatre I picked up "Water for Elephants". It's coming out soon. I saw the preview for it when we went to see "True Grit". It will be starring Reese Witherspoon and (ironically) Robert Pattinson. I thought to myself, "I'm going to pick that one up and check it out". It was waiting for me on the hold shelf, Thursday at the library and I finished it up last night. It's easy to breeze through a 300 page book, after all those 700 pagers. I was just as enthralled! It is about train traveling circuses of the depression era. I would highly recommend this book. Although it was more than a peek behind the curtain, even the gritty world of the circus was magical. The main character is such a charmer, you can't help but want to sit next to him and listen to his tales. It was also a brilliant take on being old. It made we want to spend more time learning about my grandparent's pasts. I hope you enjoy spending time in this world as much as I did.

Monday, January 3, 2011

A Clean Slate

Could the new year start any better? If you just can't decide what you want for Christmas next year, ask Santa to send you a few elves to "deep clean" your house the day the kids go back to school. It was actually my husband's idea to get it done. What a man! It was a 4 hour process, so I just headed out the door. I had sushi for lunch, while enjoying a new magazine, then window shopped at TJ Maxx until it was time to pick up my son. We got a little pick me up at the coffee shop and waited for big brother to get out as well. By the time I picked up my oldest son, they were done and boy was I in for a surprise! I am not the world's best housekeeper. The idea that it is just going to get dirty again as soon as you get it all clean keeps me from doing an outstanding job, but nothing was keeping these ladies from getting an A+! I do take pride in my home and want it to be comfortable, so I will attack the windows, blinds, ceiling fans and baseboards from time to time, but not all in the same day, and certainly not on the same day I mopped and dusted! But this is exactly what I walked into today when I got home. It had ALL been done! The burners on the stove were sparkling! The sticky, greasy dust above the microwave was gone! The hard water ring on toilets had disappeared! The shower floor was white! Even the kids beds got made and their thrown about clothes were neatly folded! I didn't expect them to clean up after them, just dust and vacuum their rooms. Everywhere I turned was another pleasant surprise! I don't want to use anything now and I certainly don't want to let the dog in! I am hoping to have them come every other month for a little extra up keep and then deep clean every January, what a great way to start off the new year!